If you want to stop divorce, you have to convince the person what wants to divorce you to give the relationship another chance. While this isn’t always possible, you must not stop trying if you believe it can still work. It is never to late to stop a divorce, even if paperwork has already been filed. The earlier you stop a divorce, the more likely it is that the divorce won’t be restarted, at least not anytime soon.
So to stop a divorce, you must convince the person to give the relationship another chance. If you have been begging the other person to give you another try or pleading for them to get back together with you, stop now. This might seem counterproductive, as if now that the person has less resistance it will make it easier for them to divorce you. Your pleading and begging probably helped lead to divorce because who wants to be around a person that acts in that way?
If you start acting more mature and calm, this will help the other person as well. They probably reacted to your screaming before with screaming of their own. This is counterproductive for both parties. Explain that you really don’t want the divorce and you want another chance in a calm way. The person already knows this so you screaming or carrying on won’t help your chances. Just make it clear that you’re hurt and very sad, and you really want another chance. By changing your behavior, you will also change your partners behavior.
You can also show a mature side of yourself that the other person might not have seen over the last several weeks and suggest marital or couples counseling to stop divorce. Counseling has worked for million of couples and your relationship could benefit from it, too. If you can convince the other person that they at least owe you the respect of going to counseling, this extra time can help to stop the divorce.
Counseling will allow you to show the person why they fell in love with you in the first place. If you can show an honest effort into wanting to fix the problems that lead to the other person wanting the divorce—and many probably will—that will help convince the other person to put a temporary hold and hopefully permanent hold on the divorce.
When you succeed and stop divorce, you must remember that the person was about to divorce you and it would be easy enough for them to change his or her mind and file for divorce later. Having already thought about divorce and maybe even having gone far enough as to file for divorce at one time makes the decision to file again easier. So be aware of the state of your relationship, and perhaps continue counseling. It’s easier to stop divorce temporarily than to have a good relationship for the long term.
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