How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back

January 4, 2015

How To Quickly Get Your Ex Girlfriend To Miss You
Like Crazy And Want You Back After A Break Up




how to get your ex girlfriend back Losing someone you love is always devastating no matter what the circumstances happen to be.That excruciating heartache that follows a breakup is practically unbearable, and it is impossible to focus on anything except the pain of that person no longer being in your life. The good news is that there is more you can do than you may realize, in order to get the love of your life to come back to you.

The most important thing you need to do (and it can also be the most difficult for some people) is to change your perspective and your focus. The best way to do this is to remind yourself that if you really want to make up with your ex girlfriend, you will be prepared to do whatever it takes. And this is what it takes: Start focusing on yourself. That may seem difficult to accept at first, but it is the most powerful way to get her to want to come back to you!



How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend To Want You Back


The truth is, the more you empower yourself the more attractive you will appear to others, including your ex-girlfriend. So, how do you do this? Take a good, honest look at yourself – inside as well as outside – and then make a list of all of the qualities you feel are your best features. For example, you may be kind, considerate, funny, active and have great hair. Whatever you believe are your best qualities, make a list of them. Then make a list of what you believe needs improving. Perhaps you’d like to be healthier, more sensitive, more relaxed, or less laidback.


The next step is to take the list of things to improve and begin coming up with a plan to make those improvements. This will give you a mission – something to focus on rather than focusing on the breakup. You are now looking forward and taking positive action. Resist the temptation to contact your ex until you have started to see real results from your efforts to improve those areas you are working on. Whenever you catch yourself thinking “How do I get my ex girlfriend back?” remind yourself that the most effective way to do that is to attract her back by becoming the man you know she wants.


After allowing enough time to make your ex girlfriend miss you, when you do eventually contact her, focus on being compassionate rather than on how to get her back. It may sound weird, but kindness is one of the most powerful tools you can use. It works because it is not threatening in any way – it is a way of connecting with a person and making them feel good without giving the impression you want anything from them. This is a very attractive trait.


When you have made some tangible headway with the improvements you want to make to yourself, and you are showing compassion rather than wanting something from her, instead of you trying to get her back, she will actually want you back without you having to convince her at all!


How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back After A Break Up


The biggest mistake most guys make after a break up is to try to convince their ex girlfriend to come back to them. The problem with this is that it only pushes her further away. Talking, arguing, debating and trying to convince someone who has broken up with you that they should come back to you are the most ineffective ways of getting the person back. What you need to do is work on finding ways that will make her want to come back to you of her own accord, so that it is her choice.


If you find yourself in a situation like this: “I Just Broke up with my girlfriend and want to know where I went wrong and how to fix it so if I want to get back with her I will have it sorted” Starting with the list suggested above will help. Make notes of all of the things you know you can improve on and then make it your mission to find ways to make those improvements a reality. Naturally, all break ups are different, and the circumstances and details will vary widely; however, regardless of the circumstances and details, the most effective way to attract her back to you is by making changes within yourself.


In a similar way, if you feel you are lost for what to do or say, for example: “My ex broke up with me and I really do want her back. What are some things I should say or do, to get her back? I really want to make this work again.” Remember, rather than trying to talk her into it, make your ex girlfriend want you back by doing what you can to make yourself irresistible. One of the most powerful features in anyone is the way they take care of themselves. How you feel about yourself will affect how everyone else feels about you. We teach others how to treat us by the way we treat ourselves. If you have been wondering how to get your ex girlfriend back fast, putting your focus on improving yourself is the answer.


How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back When She Has A Boyfriend


This is a very difficult situation, there is no doubt about that. And many guys make the mistake of trying to convince their ex that she should not be with the new boyfriend. The reason this is a mistake comes down to simple reverse psychology. The more you try to convince her she is wrong, the more she will probably defend her choices. One of the most effective ways to get your ex-girlfriend back from the new boyfriend is to be her friend. Now, that may seem impossible at first, but hey, if that is the only way to get her back, you will find a way to be able to achieve it.


Being kind and compassionate and supportive, including being supportive of her new relationship is more likely to start to make her aware of what she is missing out on by not being with you, than if you were trying to fight to get her back.


How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back From Another Guy


There are few things more painful than losing your exgirlfriend to another guy; it’s one of life’s most devastating challenges. The only way to win in this situation is to resist the temptation to compete with the other guy. It is natural instinct to want to do this, but it is not effective. In order to win your girlfriend back, you need to base your actions on how her mind works, not how yours works. Focusing on developing yourself instead of on ways of getting back with her and trying to convince her to come back. Becoming a better man will attract her back more than just trying to get her away from the guy she’s currently with.


There are two ways to have the tallest building: you can try to tear down those buildings around you, or you can concentrate on building yours as high as you can so that you end up with the tallest. This is the same, put your focus and energy on becoming the “tallest building” – the best man for her – by focusing on making the improvements to yourself you know are needed rather than trying to “tear down the competition” (the new guy) since while you are focused on that, you are not becoming the irresistible man you can be to her!



What to do next?

I recommend you check out the “Ex Factor Guide” and learn exactly what you
must do and what to say to get your Ex girlfriend running back to your arms



Click the link above to watch the video immediately (may not be online for much longer, so don’t wait around).


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Nicky "The Heart-Mender" is a writer who Blogs about ways to get your ex back, steps for getting back together with your girlfriend or boyfriend, how to fix heartbreak, getting over a break up and how to prevent divorce. She received the pen-name "The Heart-Mender" because while some people are "heart-breakers", Nicky does the exact opposite and helps mend broken hearts and fix damaged relationships.

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