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Get Your Partner To Agree To Relationship Counseling

April 22, 2009

Relationship counseling is often a last resort for couples on the brink of the divorce. Some couples use counseling for even minor problems so they don‘t escalate. Counseling should not be something you are afraid to try, especially for the men out there. Most often, catching small problems early can prevent these issues from becoming larger and is a great preventive measure towards divorce.

Today’s couples seem more eager to try to new things, which makes counseling a good option. Counseling doesn’t have the societal stigma attached to it as it did in the past. Couples married years ago seem less likely to go for counseling or try new approaches, perhaps because it wasn’t something commonly done when they were younger. Very often marriages of 30 or 40 years now end in divorce, which is a shame because they’ll never know if relationship counseling could have helped save the marriage.

If you feel like you need or want relationship counseling, present the idea to your partner in a non-judgemental way. If you ask him or her to go to counseling in such a way as it seems like you are accusing them of being the problem and needing counseling, you’re likely to encounter resistance to the idea. Try to make it clear that you want the counseling for yourself if nothing else.

If you ask your partner to go to counseling because you have some issues you need to work on, they’re more likely to view the idea favorably. Explain that you think you need some help to be able to contribute more to the relationship, and to learn how to be a better partner or spouse. Don’t accuse the other person of needing counseling. Even if you believe that they are most of the problem, don’t say so. Once you’re in relationship counseling, they will learn tips and techniques for being better within the relationship, just as you will. This is the main benefit of having a professional help both of you through your problems.

It’s never too late to try counseling to resolve problems. Don’t be afraid to seek help whether you’ve been in the marriage or relationship nine months or nine years. And it’s never too late to try to keep small problems from becoming big ones. If the relationship is relatively new, you might think that you’re admitting to problems and admitting that the relationship is rocky by suggesting counseling. But that’s not true. But facing any obstacles now, you’re making the relationship stronger in the long run.

If your partner believes that your suggestion of relationship counseling means that the relationship isn’t perfect, and maybe even is doomed, calmly explain that that isn’t true. Just because you’re willing to admit that everything isn’t perfect shows that you’re willing to make necessary changes to keep the other person and yourself happy.

If your partner refuses, go on your own. While the counseling would work best if both of you go, you can go and work on things to improve yourself. The counselor will be able to give you advice to better discuss your relationship with your partner. If your partner sees you going to relationship counseling, they’re more likely to give it a try.

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Nicky "The Heart-Mender" is a writer who Blogs about ways to get your ex back, steps for getting back together with your girlfriend or boyfriend, how to fix heartbreak, getting over a break up and how to prevent divorce. She received the pen-name "The Heart-Mender" because while some people are "heart-breakers", Nicky does the exact opposite and helps mend broken hearts and fix damaged relationships.

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